Reclaim Your Body

And I said to my body, softly, "I want to be your friend."
It took a long breath and replied, “I have been waiting my whole life for this.”
                                           –-unknown

Poor Body Image & Disordered Eating

IT"S NOT YOUR FAULT! If you struggle to accept your body, if every diet you have tried has failed, it is not your fault. Our society does not want you to love your body unless it fits into an extremely narrow definition of what is acceptable. And even if you do fall within this minuscule

category society will find some other way to tell you that you are not good enough. And diets? Well, diets suck, they don't work.

 

Here is what the dieting cycle looks like, feel familiar?

  • Start a New Diet - I am determined, this diet will be the one that finally works!

  • I'm Dieting - I am such a good person for not eating breakfast, having celery for lunch and broccoli for dinner!

  • Famine Response - Your body says, " oh boy, it's a famine (again), time to increase hunger and decrease metabolic rate, gotta stay alive!"

  • Temptation & Frustration - not to mention irritability and depression.

  • Feast Response - Your body says, "WooHoo, the famine is over, I found food, TIME TO EAT!"

  • Regain - the weight comes back and sometimes brings friends.

  • Guilt, Shame, Hopelessness - It's my fault, I don't have any willpower, I am worthless.

  • Start a New Diet - This will finally be the ONE.

It's not that you don't have enough willpower, your body is designed to respond this way. The billion dollar diet industry is counting on you to stay in this cycle your entire life! But what would you be doing if you were not spending hours and hours focusing on your body, food, and dieting? And what would you do with all the money you have given to the very people and companies that tell you that you don't belong and you are not good enough?  These non-diet culture ideas are counterculture, revolutionary and a tiny bit radical.

 

I think you are ready for a little radical in your life!

Signs of Poor Body Image/Disordered Eating

  • Waiting to Live - You are waiting until you lose 5, 10, 25, 100 pounds until  you start dating, go back to school, travel, be nice to yourself.....fill in the blank.

  • Glum Social Life - Your social life is restricted because you don't want to eat in public, or won't eat in certain places, or are worried that people will judge you.

  • Calories - You obsessively count every calorie or every point, and/or you have to work off all of your caloric intake.

  • Self Esteem/Self Worth - How you feel about yourself is primary focused on your weight, body shape, and/or what you ate on any certain day.

  • Good Food / Bad Food - Certain foods are 'good'  and others 'bad'. Eating 'bad' foods makes you feel guilty and eating 'good' foods makes you feel virtuous. 

  • Mental Energy - Thoughts about food, eating, body weight take up a great deal of your mental energy, leaving little for anything else.

  • Coping Skills - Food and dieting your primary or only ways to cope. When you are feeling bad, rejected or hurt your first reaction is to find a new diet that will fix everything.

Therapy for Body Image & Disordered Eating

If you find that you have some of the above signs, again it is not your fault. This is the way we are socialized in our western society. Many of us started dieting at 10 or younger. But there is a different way, a way that can reconnect you to the wisdom of your body and free you to pursue your dreams.  I help people find peace with their bodies using a non-diet, weight neutral approach to food based on permission, allowance, self compassion and trust. Together, we will explore your relationship to food and your body so that you can re-discover your own power and sense of self worth. 

 

Health at Every Size, or HAES®, influences my approach to this work as well as intuitive eating techniques. HAES encourages us to trust our body by listening to hunger and fullness cues, seeking joy and moderation in physical activity, celebrating body diversity, and rejecting diet culture, sizeism, and the thin ideal. Intuitive eating helps us to tune into what our body needs and wants. As a professional counselor I use emotion-focused, self-compassion, and mindfulness based therapeutic techniques to develop alternative skills to manage the difficult emotions that may be beneath the poor body image and disordered eating.

Health At Every Size and HAES are registered trademarks of Association for Size Diversity and Health and used with permission.

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